Thursday, September 17, 2009

Hello Grace, Nice to Meet You

I'm sure I'm not the only one that feels this way, but I REALLY hate cleaning. If I could have just one luxury in life, it would be a cleaning person. My husband completely disagrees and says we should take care of our own stuff, our own responsibilities, blah, blah, blah. I don't see him picking up the brush and get down and dirty with Mr. Clean! In his defense, he is very good about helping me out on the weekends and straightening things up. But, for the icky, sticky stuff, he's hard to find.

So, me being the perfectionist freak show that I am, everything has to be just right. Well, of course that stresses me out and makes the job twice as hard because I'm in there with a toothbrush and knife scraping and picking out the dirt in the cracks. Yes, they are the cracks that no one sees but me, but still...

After the birth of my last baby, I have come to the sad conclusion that I am not the SuperMom that I always hoped to be. I can't do it all and do it all perfectly. Believe me, I've tried. How did my mom do it? Or did she? Maybe what I saw and what I think I saw were two very different things. Anyway, there are too many balls to juggle all at once and darn it, I am done trying. Not done trying to keep things clean and chores done, etc. But, done breaking my neck trying to do everything, all the time, perfectly, better than anyone else, faster and more efficiently. Done, I say!! Little secret, no one cares that much. I might, but it is time to give myself a little grace.

So, I am going to introduce you to the woman that says, even if it isn't perfect, it is still a blessing to your family. My new motto! She is the Flylady at You have to go visit her website. There is a lot of information, so take it slow. But, I will say, that since starting this I feel so much better. It's easy and it just helps me control my freakiness.

So, my bathrooms counters are clean today and my sink is shiny! So, I am off to enjoy some playtime with the baby and the rest can wait.


  1. Good for you!!! I always felt that way. The dust can wait, it will always be there, but your babies grow up.


  2. You go, Halo! I figure if nobody is going to get hurt or sick, well, it's clean enough!


    You just found the secret to being the mommy you are meant to be - accept what you can do, and do what you can, and live with the things that, really, don't matter so much!
    You will be happier, and so will the monkeys, when you relax the standards you hold onto so tightly - the flexible ones, anyway.

    Take a deep breath, and let go of the stuff no one sees.

    Welcome to life in the middle lane, where no one is rushing, and no one is bogged down, it's all good here!!
    (well, usually, at least until the dust bunnies have babies.)

    Love you,